Softly Softly Gently Does It

This week I was quite astounded to read that Ofcom are investigating complaints from the Great British unwashed about the supposed bullying of John Sergeant on Strictly Come Dancing. For readers not in the UK, JS is an elderly political reporter who has entered our version of Dancing with the Stars (the original version!) and his dancing ability is limited to say the least. For some reason he is still in the competition at the expense of much better dancers. Now, this of course is the nature of reality TV but people are only voting for him because he is the underdog and has cultivated the image of the cuddly old gentleman doing his best (when in reality when interviewed he is actually quite arrogant and shows very little compassion or empathy towards the better contestants who have been forced to leave because of this public campaign). Anyway, the whys and wherefores to this are not important – everyone has their own opinion on John and that’s fine. What worries me is that the judges on the show are being accused of bullying him because they are expressing valid opinions. They are there to judge technical ability and quite frankly John has none whatsoever.

I find this astounding in a week when the news has been dominated by the tragic and horrendous death of a beautiful 17-month-old baby at the hands of his mother, step-father and the lodger. I’m not even going to repeat what was done to this poor child (who was overlooked by social services and all the people who should be looking after him) because it breaks my heart to even think about it. But I can’t help but wonder if that same teenage mother is a product of the same society that is up in arms moaning about the alleged bullying of a rather pompous old man.

Suddenly, bullying is the sexiest word on the planet. The line between constructive criticism and bullying has become blurry and for several years now teachers have been encouraged not to criticise children, to encourage them and overlook the more odious traits in their nature. In an ideal world this would work but let’s take a look at the society it has produced – feral teenagers who think the world owes them a living because they’ve spent most of their time in an education system that is too frightened to criticise because they will be accused of bullying. There is nothing wrong with being brought down a peg or two. No one is advocating bringing back the birch or making children stand in corners but we’ve got to lose this obsession with bullying.

So even though John Sergeant is an insignificant contestant on an equally insignificant TV show, this whole furore about bullying is a reflection on how we now look on society. On a similar vein, switch on any TV channel during the day and every advert is about how to claim compensation because you’ve had an accident (which may have occurred because you weren’t looking where you were going in the first place). It’s all about blaming someone else and not taking responsibility for your own actions. I find it all quite scary.